Coming Into Kinship
Calaveras County, California
July 20-23
Practice Nurturance • Receive Support •
Co-create Belonging
This retreat is for men* who want deeper, more meaningful connection and relationship
Who are questioning their conditioned ideas, behaviors and responses
Who are unpacking harm
Who are exploring the vast possibilities of their identity
Who want to be seen, heard, felt, and known for who they really are.
*This retreat is welcoming of all men, male-identifying, and male-socialized folks. we love, honor, and do our best to center the experiences of men who have found themselves on the margins of other men’s spaces, including but certainly not limited to queer men, trans men, non-binary people raised as boys, Black men, Indigenous men, and men of color.
"Beautiful, essential, nourishing and surprisingly easy to settle into. I'm more in touch with my true self than I've ever been."
"This was an amazing opportunity to connect with other men, use each other as support in unleashing our potential as humans, and is the perfect response and practice activity to heal the greater rifts of the world."
What To Expect
Embodiment
get out of your head and into your body.
Dance, body work, nature connection and movement practices help us get to the root of what is stuck, what wants to come through, and what is most needed.
Connection
be an essential part of a greater whole.
Gathering in community allows us space to be heard, witnessed, and affirmed by each other. with this support we are able to access and bring forth all parts of ourselves.
Growth
let go of old narratives and patterns.
We are naming and reclaiming our own unique truths. we are realizing our full potential and living into our aspirations for a healthier, more connected, and more loving world.
Our retreat begins on Thursday evening and ends Sunday late morning.
We begin our all of our mornings with movement options before going into the day’s discussions, embodiment activities, and rituals.
Friday night we have a special ceremony and dinner that will support setting up our release and reclamation experience Saturday, and on Saturday night we share in celebrate together. Sunday we close our container and prepare for integration and our return home.
We support individuals to be in the arc of their own experience throughout the weekend, and include time for self-care, unstructured exploration of the lands, music, dance, and connecting with new and old friends.
Your retreat cohort will meet together twice in the two weeks before the retreat and once in the week following. These online gatherings will support you in preparation for and integration of our time together.
Meet Your Facilitators
Dor Haberer
Dor is a co-founder of kinhood, and has been facilitating groups in men’s work, self care, and cultural & ancestral reclamation for over 7 years and brings his expertise and passion in these areas to our course. Dor incorporates a diversity of somatic modalities into his work and is trained in Shiatsu Therapy, Qi Gong, and 5 Rhythms dance. His facilitation brings together his connection to his ancestral Arabic Jewish Roots, his love of ecology, and an orientation towards simplicity and pleasure.
Ophir Haberer
Ophir is a Jerusalem-born facilitator, educator, mediator, ritualist, storyteller, and father. He has been guiding men’s work for over 5 years and has facilitated for numerous organizations all over the country. He helped pilot and direct MenschUp, the mens’ program for the Shalom Bayit, the Jewish Center for Domestic Abuse. He is a certified somatic trauma therapist through the Hakomi Institute of California, and a certified Esalen Massage practitioner. He is passionate around working with clients and communities to move trauma through the body.
Alex Voynow
Alex is an educator, facilitator, and kinhood co-founder. Through a depth of practice in community building and earth connection, and a commitment to accountability and regeneration, Alex moves through and helps others move through processes of individual & collective liberation. As a rites of passage guide, nature connection mentor, community historian, and community organizer, Alex brings a passionate relationship to the work of inner and outer ecological healing at the core of kinhood’s vision of men’s work.
Eli Klarman
Eli is an entrepreneur, educator, and cook. He has been working at the intersection of community building and organizational operations since 2015, when we founded an indoor rock climbing gym in New Orleans and built a home for the climbing community where there had previously not been one. Eli came to men’s work with a desire for more meaningful relationships with partners, friends, family and community, and is passionate about inviting others into their process of doing the same.
Ben Poretzky
Ben began his men’s work journey in response to his experiences as a fraternity member, athlete, and corporate manager. In dealing with chronic body pain, he sought a deeper understanding of his body, and desired to develop a more supportive approach to self care. Through years of studying and practicing mindfulness, Ben has been expanding his relationship to his body, gender, and identity. Ben approaches men’s work with an eye for structure, ensuring that the channels are open and resources are available for organizers, facilitators, community members, and the organization itself.
Gaiatree Center
We are blessed to spend these five days together at Gaiatree.
Prepare for nourishing garden-sourced food, beautiful facilities, and immersion into the expansive, rolling landscape of the sierra nevada foothills.
Gaiatree is located 3 hours east of the bay area.
Gaiatree is located within unceded ancestral Northern Sierra Miwok territory.
frequently asked questions
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this retreat is for you, and you will get from it what you most desire and need. each of us comes with different questions, challenges, and hopes, and by building a container of trust and connection together, we will explore what it means to walk through the world as a man, how it impacts us, how we impact others, and how we wish to be.
we practice embodied movement, nature connection, open-hearted discussion, and emotional processing. you will have an opportunity to celebrate and to grieve, and to be seen in whatever parts of yourself you are bringing.
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your registration includes all meals and food during the retreat. we see nourishing food as essential to our self care and sustenance during retreats, and work diligently to make sure we have skilled chefs and the highest quality ingredients to support our wellness. we serve a mostly plant based menu and encourage participants to bring any special foods they might need for more unique dietary reasons.
bring clothes for a variety of weather in a coastal ecosystem. we will make a trip to the ocean if weather allows and it can be quite cold in the evenings and mornings even in the summer months. and of course, rain is possible! also bring festive clothes that make you feel beautiful for friday night, and some fun clothes or accessories for saturday night.
bring the essentials such as water bottle and headlamp, and anything that supports you in your regular practices such as a yoga mat and journal.
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our pricing is designed to be as accessible as possible while also allowing us to pay a fair wage to our organizers, facilitators, chefs and facility hosts. we ask that you please pay what you are able to so that we may continue to create access for as many people as possible. we utilize a tiered pricing system in order to reduce barriers of access due to cost, and to allow those who are able to pay more and support our ability to offer reduced rates. we have two price tiers available:
standard rate - $960 camping, $1080 indoor - please consider this option if you make between $40,000 and $70,000 in annual income OR have access to intergenerational wealth.
sustainer rate - $1160 camping, $1280 indoor - please consider this option if you make $70,000 or more in annual income OR have access to substantial intergenerational wealth.
nobody will ever be turned away for lack of funds. the most meaningful contribution you can make is your presence. we offer work trade opportunities and scholarships, so please contact us through our form on the registration page to set up individual rates as needed.